I feel like the true test of any New Year’s resolution is whether or not you can clear March (I’ve read 80% of resolutions fail by this point). That’s probably where resolutions get their bad rap. We all set them – but we have so little self-trust that we can actually achieve them. True to the stats, life picked up the pace this month and I didn’t realize until halfway through March that I hadn’t yet written out my March small goals. Before I give myself the chance to get down on myself and let that self-doubt set in, I’m going to quickly jot down my March small goals.
How did I do in February?
Go see a financial advisor Practice gratitude
- Compliment myself more, criticize myself less – Still have to work on this more.
Master Wunderlist Create an actionable plan for an idea I have, and take the first step
March Small Goals
- Go to morning yoga twice a week – I have gone to morning yoga three times so far, but only made it into the studio once due to tardiness. There’s no feeling more dejected than showing up to yoga 2 minutes too late and the door is already locked. So this month (or what’s left of it) I want to make it INTO the yoga studio twice a week before work in the morning. And go to evening yoga twice a week.
- Host a lady-meeting to help me achieve an idea I have – Last month my goal was to create an actionable plan and take the first step. A lady-meeting is step #2, and I admit it’s a particularly intimidating one.
- Get back to blogging twice a week – I blogged 3 times in February, that’s less than half of my goal (but still 3 times what I did in 2016!). One helpful tip that Tallia of Mavenly + Co. gave me for making this blogging goal more achievable is to try visualization – visualize myself a year from now with a blog full of content, how it feels, what it looks like scrolling through all of the posts. I’ve never been one to try visualization but it’s something new and from what I hear is very effective, so to that end…
- Make time for visualization in my day – As I’m spending time thinking about what I want the next year to look like, and the next 5 years to look like, I want to use visualization to help me plan for my ideal day, week, year, and life.
- Acknowledge little victories – This is another tip from Tallia at Mavenly + Co. and one I heard reaffirmed by Mel of Grow Your Lovespace. I’m a pro at pointing out where I fell short, but I tend to gloss over my wins. I’ll start right now: I achieved 80% of my goals last month! I’m doing way better than I thought I would at setting goals and achieving them, and I continue to surprise myself with what I’m capable of. It feels so unnatural to have just said all of those nice things about myself, but eventually it’ll start to feel more comfortable.
Why does it matter?
Every now and then my goals start to feel like made-up tasks on a to-do list, and I’m the only one holding myself accountable. What happens if I don’t get to one of them today, or ever? Does it matter?
One really great perspective I read recently was from Dr. Joseph J. Luciani, a clinical psychologist, who says it’s all about building self-trust, “Once you get used to making small things happen, begin to recognize and embrace the truth: What I say to myself is what I do. Remember, to cultivate a capacity for self-trust, you must succeed. In order to guarantee success, don’t challenge yourself with a pledge that you’re not sure you can handle.” He suggests inventing challenges (ie small goals!) to help you build trust in yourself. They can be really small, like washing a dish after dinner or finishing a task before watching Netflix. “These are all trust-muscle builders, and you should view them as you would an actual muscle.”
When you say you want to do something, do you trust yourself enough to make it happen?